Resolving the child’s disinterest towards his studies
About the Client: The client Amrita approached Dr. Gittanjali with an issue that her child Avinash did not study well. She wanted to have insights into this issue and resolve the reasons that affected his studies.
Resolution: The matrix was setup with participants taking up the role of Avinash and Amrita respectively. As soon as the matrix was live, Avinash felt like he was a star (film- star) of a previous era. He did not see himself as a commoner and had a strong hatred for the people whom he considered a commoner. He was exceedingly ungrounded.
Mother Amrita too, felt like a princess. But beyond the layers of such feelings were extremely painful memories. She is an Arts graduate and a working mother but she did carry a deep-seated inferiority complex with respect to her education. She was always a simple, shy and reserved girl. Her siblings were all well educated with 2 of them being engineers and another one as a banker. As a child, she was never given a choice to pursue anything else other than arts and this was solely decided by her father.
On further exploration, there surfaced an unresolved inner child of 8 years. This child was extremely impacted because of an incident and seemed to have formed multiple mental postulates.
The incident: There was some kind of celebration going on and for some odd reason Amrita was at the receiving end of her father’s anger.
Some of the mental postulates that she formed were:
- I cannot be happy
- If I am happy, I will be beaten up
- I cannot fight back
- It is not easy to digest the situation around
- I am not capable of being happy
- I am unloved
- I am a failure and I can’t accept my father
Each of these was addressed one by one and were processed and released with awareness under the expert guidance of the facilitator.
When all of this was happening, there was a significant shift in Avinash’s energies within the matrix. Further, it was revealed that Avinash was identifying with one his maternal uncle who was equally sad, depressed and felt rejected. Eventually, all identification and enmeshed energies were released.
The break in the bond between Amrita and her father was healed and these healing energies were passed on to her son as well.
Conclusion: When someone gets deeply impacted at a young age, an unresolved inner child is formed. These unhealed energies then, surface up or get triggered over a period of time in one’s life demanding their attention to heal it. Family Constellation is a powerful therapy where unhealed inner children can be identified and a deep healing process can be carried out.