There is a HUGE difference between creating space from a place of rejection and creating space from a place of self-love/self-care. To create space from a place of self-love & self-care while still honouring them as your parents, holding them in your hearts and being soulfully empathetic towards them is a beautiful thing. If we’re rejecting them.
If you’ve been struggling in your life for years, decades even, this is the first place I look when helping clients heal, how is your relationship with mom and dad?
And Mom & Dad Can Be Toxic
In all honesty, sometimes it’s absolutely toxic to be in connection with our parents. It’s certainly changed my life and the lives of MANY clients.
Learn more about Family Constellation work and how it can help you heal here.
This tool can repair even the most wounded relationships. The safest and best move we can make is to create distance and separation. This is the ideal. Rejecting our parents comes at a high cost!
It is extremely difficult to be truly successful in all aspects of life (relationships, connections, financial support, career success & health) if we are blocked from loving our parents, i.e. either positive and supportive or negative and weakening. If you can find a way to hold them with love, this supports you in every area of your life.
Family Constellation Work Heals Family Relationships
One of the most beautiful tools I’ve ever seen at repairing broken family relations is Family Constellation work. We must do this for our sanity, health and well-being. However, there is a healthy way to create distance and there is a harmful (self-harming) way to create distance.
Outright rejection of your parents/family is ultimately toxic to you, your children and generations beyond. When we do this we suffer for this rejection, one way or another.
Creating distance from a place of personal-love and self-care can be HIGH vibration. (Note: I am not speaking to a mental empathy, where you override your own pain and hurt, or deny their responsibilities for their actions, this is on them)
How to Hold Mom & Dad
If the connection between you, your mother and your father can be reconciled. There is so much life-reward when we’re in a healthy, loving relationship with them. If you need to be at a distance because of their toxicity, then ideally you can hold them in your heart with love, gratitude and empathy for what they carry and their wounds. Whatever you do, how you relate with mom and dad, whether in your heart or in physical presence, will have a HUGE energetic impact on your life.